Looking for Love During Lockdown
“First we feel. Then we fall.”
— James Joyce
It’s an absolute poxy time to be single with this neverending lockdown. We’d all rather be catching feelings than catching covid. There are 2 ways to go about it:
Firstly, if you’re worried about the virus but still want to meet someone, your best option is to stick to online dating. Tinder, Bumble, & Hinge are usually reliable. Play the field and text as many potential candidates as you can. My advice (if possible) is to carry on the conversation on another platform of social media such as Instagram or Facebook. That way you can make sure they’re not a catfish and you can do a cheeky little background search on their profile to see what kind of a person they might be like. Also, to find out what they really look like with more pictures to have a gander through. If all is going well then plan a future date together for when the lockdown ends.
Secondly, if you’re not too worried about the virus and still want to meet someone during lockdown you can do it the old-school way and meet someone in real life. You’re fairly limited yet your best options are the outdoor social locations where you don’t have to wear a mask, like a takeaway coffee spot or a dog park. If you have a cute dog you’re onto a winner and have a good advantage for people approaching you first. Dog people, I find are generally friendlier, more social, and easier to strike up a brief conversation with. Just smile and greet everyone you pass while out walking until you feel comfortable enough to strike up a conversation with someone that tickles your fancy. Don’t be worried if the conversations don’t go too smoothly or stress about getting rejected. It’s all about the practice and it takes real courage to ask someone out in person. It’s better to be rejected than to be left wondering what might have happened. Someone will say yes to a date eventually if you ask enough people.
You could be ballsy and make a move in a supermarket. Although you have to be very careful about reading the situation and not to scare them off. Especially if you approach someone with a mask on, they could be jumpy and think you’re trying to rob them.
Finally, don’t you dare succumb to last-resort tactics and text your ex because it’s convenient and you’re struggling to find someone new. They’re your ex for a reason, you don’t need that unnecessary drama in your life. Never confuse lust and loneliness with real love.